Who are we? Why are we here? Where are we going? Not everyone asks such questions, but some of us are driven to find the answers.
We are adept at living life in this time-space universe, but comprehending that which is one or more steps removed from this reality is not one of our specialties. We can get a sense of what lies beyond, but doing that takes as much intuition and feeling as it does intellect.
Our universe is structured by the rules of time and space. Time-space is the nature of the reality we live in: objects appear separate and distinct — this is not that. There is a sequence to events: past, present, and future — this happened before that. Currently, we are rooted in this reality, but there is infinitely more.
Time-space is not an illusion. It is very real on its own level. It is not bad, but our beliefs about it can color how we perceive it to be. Can we expand our understanding and perception to more directly sense that which is beyond time-space? Yes, but our intellect will only take us so far in that pursuit. With patience and practice, and using our intuition and feelings, we can gain a deeper experience of what is normally unknown.
For centuries people have reported experiences of self-awareness detached from their physical bodies such as experiences of near-death or expanded consciousness. There have been different ways of explaining these experiences, but the underlying conclusions are the same: who we are is more than, and independent of, the collection of chemicals and electrical impulses we call our bodies. We have an unseen side. In fact, this unseen side is who we really are. We are that and we use a physical body, as opposed to, we are this physical body and thereby we have that. What is that? Probably every language in history has had at least one name for it. The most common words in English are soul and spirit.
Our understanding of the out-of-body experience, as it is often called, is far from complete. This is difficult territory for our current intellectual nature. We are steeped in the scientific method. We use instruments to collect data. We insist on repeatability. Fortunately, scientists will continue to refine their abilities to investigate and understand extremely subtle phenomena. But some physicists readily acknowledge that there may come a time when the traditional tools of science will reach their limit of perception and become inadequate. It might not be possible to use time-space instruments to study non-time-space reality.
As long as we are attached to Earth, our ability to fully understand non-time-space will be a bit limited. Our fascination with experiencing time-space completely on its own level requires the blocking of our true unlimitedness from our human perception. Of course, we choose to do this with absolute free will. There is no coercion. If we are here, we want to be here simply because it is an incredible experience. Living a life in which the subjective experience is one of complete individuality, without the perception of the underlying oneness of all things, is extremely fascinating. In one sense, perceiving our eternal nature is not the amazing thing. The amazing thing is not perceiving it.
Finding Purpose
Living life on Earth is all-consuming. Our lives are extremely important to us. This is by design. How should we spend our time here? Be gentle with yourself and kind to others, then do whatever you want to do. Of course, there will always be the necessities of food, clothing, and shelter, although we are free to ignore those things if we are willing to face the consequences. We are free to do or not do anything, and, when the results of our choices arrive, we will make more choices. Earth life is not about finding our one perfect activity, as if not finding it would make our life a mistake. If we are honest and caring to the best of our ability, that is a great achievement. Let your interests and talents be your guide. Clarify what you desire, then create a step-by-step plan to achieve it. Engage each day with enthusiasm. Recognize the value in everything you do. Care, and do things well.
The challenge is that things do not always go smoothly. Sometimes, outside circumstances can make things difficult, and sometimes our own internal worries and fears can be strong. Recognizing and healing our fears is an important part of life. Do not be afraid to listen to the voice of your heart and mind. Your fears cannot harm you, and, with gentle attention, you can heal them.
Fear is whatever interferes with our internal balance. In obvious and subtle ways fear can affect how we feel and behave. Outer circumstances might be challenging, but if we pay attention to our reactions to them, we will learn much about ourselves.
Whenever we are unduly critical or harsh toward others, it is due to an underlying fear of some kind. If we see someone who looks or acts in a way that makes us overly judgmental of them, notice that reaction. Practice being accepting. Oftentimes, people are the way they are partly because of how they were raised or how they have been treated. Certainly, we all make our own choices in every moment, but we haven’t all been given the same positive influences and advantages. We don’t know the internal and external struggles that others face.
It takes courage to face our challenges. When you are feeling judgmental of, or irritated with, someone take a step back and muster patience and understanding. Direct compassion toward them and say to yourself, “I love you. I support you. I bless you.” Feel this softening of your heart. It will benefit both of you, especially you.
Relax
Most of us can benefit from taking more time to relax, to tune into what’s going on inside. Relax one or more times a day. It can be done in minutes throughout the day. There are fine relaxation and meditation techniques available, or, simply sit down, close your eyes, relax all your muscles, and feel what’s going on in your chest area. Release the tension in your heart and lungs. With a little practice you will be able to lower your stress level within seconds. It is not difficult.
If you have fifteen or twenty minutes available, sit in a comfortable chair, or lie down if possible, close your eyes, and let go of pressing thoughts. With a few exhales of your breath, feel all the muscles in your body relax. When you exhale, let your lungs stay empty for several extra seconds. Do this only a few times, then breathe normally. Feel your heart rate slow down. You will feel the tension in your body melt away. If you buy a simple blood pressure monitor from a pharmacy, you will be able to measure this directly.
Relax your thinking. Be an indifferent witness to stray thoughts. They don’t matter. Notice yourself expanding, but not in a physical sense. It is not a feeling of getting larger in the room or floating upward in the room, sky, or outer space. Those are time-space concepts. Your expansion is interdimensional. Just relax and feel limitations slip away. Relaxation is a time for simple openness. Repeat to yourself, “I am now and always open to the love and support of my whole self.” Let yourself feel a sense of wholeness. Let whatever happens, happen. Even if you seem to sleep briefly, that’s okay; it may not be normal sleep.
If you wish, during periods of deep relaxation, you can create quiet feelings of contentment or joyfulness. Simply think a word such as gentleness, kindness, clarity, or patience; think the word easily and then for several seconds let the underlying feeling happen without effort. This will be subtle yet potent. Try different words a few times each. Try thinking me as soul, and let soft feelings of expansion and love filter in. If you wake up in the morning a few minutes early, you can do this while you’re still in bed and very relaxed. Deeper feelings will come more automatically with practice over time. Regular periods of such gently guided relaxation will benefit your daily life.
You can relax anytime, anywhere, even for just thirty seconds. When you get in your car, sit for a minute before driving. Don’t turn on the radio. When you arrive at your destination, sit for a minute. You can sense calmness even while focusing on something else.
It can help to leave the television, telephone, and other devices off a little longer. Listen to yourself a little more. Keep your entertainment content kind and uplifting, not uncaring or violent. Recognize and appreciate the goodness in the people and the world around you. Keep your physical, mental, and emotional energies well balanced.
Love And Relationships
Creating loving friendships is among the most wonderful of things we can do as human beings. We are each born with a strong desire to give and receive love. This motivates us to interact and share with others. If we are careful not to dampen this impulse with intolerance or the fear of pain, it will lead us to many fulfilling experiences.
Treat those around you with respect. Be supportive and encouraging. We are all learning, so be patient and understanding whenever you are disappointed or frustrated by the actions of another. Be a calm teacher when you have the opportunity. Savor the time you spend with those close to you, and aim for unconditional love in every relationship.
Be the best that you can be, then engage with the world and let your intentions be known. Be friendly, be open, and you will create many opportunities for sharing love.
Health And Death
We are not our bodies, but our bodies are the vehicles through which we engage life in this time-space reality. Illness cannot harm who you are. It is not badness. Aging is not badness, but our attitudes about aging can color our experience of it. Death is not badness. Death is simply leaving the body and not coming back to it. When you take off a heavy coat, you are still you. We do not truly lose our loved ones through death.
Fear of aging is not helpful. What is helpful is realizing that living more years creates more opportunities to learn and teach, both with our words and as an example. Many have come to believe that aging means becoming unhappy and burdensome to our families and society. It would be more appropriate to recognize that there is much to be gained by those who help someone in need, and to appreciate the contributions that the older generation can make to our communities. Wisdom comes from years of living. Balance, empathy, and an understanding of the nature and purpose of life come from paying attention over time. When older truly is wiser, everyone benefits.
If we have strong beliefs about what happens at and after death, those beliefs can color our initial experience for better or worse. It is best to be open to letting the experience unfold without fear. Reading descriptions of near-death experiences can be helpful, but they describe just the beginning of the transition. Our brains are not designed to fully comprehend our non-time-space nature. Just let the transition happen easily.
When we decide to leave Earth, we will have developed ourselves to a very high degree. A graduate of time-space is a highly regarded, wondrous being. Consider Earth life in the context of an infinite number of other possibilities. Contemplate this occasionally, not as an escape from the challenges of life, but as a way to more fully appreciate your time-space existence. Relax and enjoy.
Original article: SpiritofChange.org
Artist Statement: Audrey Keenan
Audrey is a Scottish artist who paints abstract Expressionism angel art. She began painting on the anniversary of her daughter’s death, and found it was healing and therapeutic. In the last three years she’s been awarded 13 international art awards, including The World Golden Cup 2020 Art Award, Oscar dell Arte, Golden Palm 2020, and Leonardo da Vinci 2020.
Audrey has been featured in a collection of art magazines and invited to share her work in galleries and exhibitions all over the world, including London, Ireland, Sweden, Korea, Dubai, Italy and the USA. She’s also designed with an Italian fashion house.
Recently Audrey was appointed ambassador to the UK for Qatar International Art Show in October 2021.
Her art gives a message of love, peace, and hope from the etheric realms. Her wish is that the viewers are comforted by her creations.
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I’ve spent over a decade in therapy, four years with a daily meditation practice, and two years in heavy spiritual study. In that time, I discovered much about my shadows, wounds, and potential. I also uncovered wisdom about listening to my intuition and aligning with my flow state.
But it took years of trial and error.
About nine months ago, I stumbled across Human Design and pulled up my “chart,” and what I saw was the knowledge I had learned through years of deep inner exploration written in black and white.
It provided a blueprint for how to “operate” me in a concrete and tangible way — validating issues I’d spent years struggling to understand and pinpointing strengths I have newly uncovered. It’s not that healing and inner work aren’t still absolutely necessary, but Human Design provided a map to the heart of the wounds I’d spent years slowly piecing together.
So, what the hell is Human Design?
Human Design weaves together western astrology with several other divination systems, including the I-Ching, the Kabbalah Tree of Life, and the Hindu Brahman Chakra System, to create a guidebook for understanding and using your astrological influences in your embodied, lived experience.
In his book “Human Design: Discovering the Person You Were Born to Be,” Chetan Parkyn explains it this way: “[Human Design] is a system that takes the torch from astrology and carries it to the next level, providing both an accurate guide for life and a self-assessment device.”
Energy Type
The first thing you learn in Human Design is your Energy Type, because your Energy Type is the element that organizes the rest of your chart. It is the mechanics of your aura; the lens through which all your unique light particles shine.
Once you know your Energy Type, you will also know your “Strategy,” or how you operate most effectively with your unique energetic patterning. Your Strategy gives you information on how you can move through the world and interact with others with the least resistance.
But I am getting ahead of myself.
There are five Energy Types, and each type has a distinct feeling or frequency. It’s not about personality per se. For example, you can have introverts or extroverts of any Type. And people within the same Energy Type can vary vastly in terms of what they enjoy, how they relate, and what they do for work. Instead, Energy Type describes how others feel around you, the way you interface with the world at an energetic level.
Find Your Energy Type
If you haven’t already, you can get a free Human Design chart and find your Energy Type here. After you input your birth data, your “Type” will be listed seven lines down on the page’s left-hand side, right under “Age.” And knowing your Type will make the following description infinitely more interesting.
After you learn your Energy Type, I highly suggest finding out the Energy Types of the people closest to you. It will give you context for understanding this fascinating concept. You will start to see how people of the same Type may have vastly different presentations. Still, they will have a similar frequency or quality to them.
1. Manifestors: The Lit Match
Manifestors are here to initiate. Their purpose is to start shit and get people on board.
If you were starting a fire, Manifestors would be the lit match.
Manifestors are the only Type that can start ventures on their own. They can decide what to do without external input and go about doing it without needing external cues or invitations. However, Manifestors may not realize how this go-it-alone vibe might affect others. Thus, informing the people around them what they are planning to do is an essential skill for a Manifestor to learn.
Manifestors are here to express themselves and launch their inspiration into action. Yet this Energy Type doesn’t have consistent access to life force energy, so they must include others to do the nuts and bolts of building out what they’ve initiated.
People are drawn to Manifestors because they have that spark of initiating power. But they are often confused by this, because they likely feel more inclined to work independently. They usually don’t understand why people should care what they are doing.
Their aura is more closed or opaque than the other Types. That is why part of their necessary Strategy is to inform others, so that other people can feel included in their lives and decisions. Without the skill of telling others what they are doing, the people around them may feel bulldozed or neglected. A Manifestor often needs to develop the awareness that even though the decision seems obvious to them, it is coming from a purely internal place. Hence, it is necessary to tell others of their next move to get them on board. Informing can be challenging for Manifestors, who often worry that others are trying to limit or control them. If they feel boxed in by life or the people around them and cannot initiate what they desire, they can experience deep anger.
These initiators are a relatively rare Energy Type and comprise only about 8% of the population. But for reference, some famous Manifestors include Gloria Steinem, Al Gore, Paul McCartney, and Maya Angelou.
2. Generators: The Firewood
Generators are here to attain mastery in any area of life that they are passionate about. With steady, consistent life force energy, these folks build knowledge, skill, or structure from beginning to end.
In this fire analogy, the Generator would be the thick logs that sustain the fire for hours.
These beings have a warm and enveloping aura or energy field around them. When they are passionate about something, they magnetize others towards them, for Generators are here to respond to others and life. It’s not that they can’t start things. It’s that, unlike Manifestors, they need something outside of them to respond to. They need external cues to direct them towards the things that they start.
Then they need to feel if that idea or task or person is a gut-level, “hell yes” for them. If they commit to things that are not a gut-level, yes, they can become frustrated and burn out. Because once they commit themselves, they have a tough time reversing that commitment and can wear themselves to the ground trying to fulfill obligations that weren’t a gut-yes for them. Just because Generator Types have consistent energy does not mean their power should be spent willy-nilly. Their life force energy should be “spent” on people, projects, and tasks that light them up.
These builders are the bedrock of society and make up about 37% of the population. Generators are powerhouses and can wield massive influence. Famous examples of Generators include Oprah Winfrey, Madonna, The Dalai Lama, Muhammad Ali, and Beyoncé.
3. Manifesting Generators: The Kindling
Manifesting Generators (or MGs) are here to find shortcuts to mastery. These are the only hybrid Type. They are similar to Generators in a lot of ways but with some key Manifestor-like differences.
Like Generators, Manifesting Generators have consistent access to life force energy. They also have a warm, enveloping aura that magnetizes people to them when they live in alignment with what ignites their passion. Because of their similar aura or energy field, they are also here, like the Generator, to respond to life.
But unlike Generators, their pace is not steady. MGs move mostly at warp speed or not at all. They are like the kindling that sparks brightly and ignites quickly, for they are a hybrid type with a bit of the Manifestor in them. Once they respond, they will need to test out whatever they respond to by visualizing it or experiencing it for a short while before getting their final intuitive knowing. If it is a gut-level, “hell yes,” after sampling this experience, they know that they truly have the energy for whatever they are responding to.
Yes, Manifesting Generators move fast, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they finish first. Because they move so quickly and skip steps, they often have to reevaluate and fix the critical elements they overlooked. And due to this fast pace, it can be challenging for MGs to slow down and wait for something to respond to. They can feel pressure to be a Manifestor and initiate. Or they can jump the gun and say yes to things that don’t light them up or that they don’t have energy for. If they fall into either of these traps, they will experience frustration and anger.
Manifesting Generators are the second most common Type. Thirty-three percent of the population are MGs. And some famous examples of Mani-Gens include Jimi Hendrix, Elton John, Mother Teresa, George Lucas, and Angelina Jolie.
4. Projectors: Fanning the Flames
Projectors are here to direct and guide the other Energy Types. They are the newest energy type, here to be our future leaders.
Like Manifestors, Projectors don’t have consistent life force energy. They are not here to be the worker bees. Instead, they are here to show the hive how to create honey most efficiently. These types are like the tool you would use to fan the flames of the campfire you’re building.
Projectors have a penetrating aura, meaning that they see through people’s surface masks easily and quickly get to the heart of the matter. That is why they need to wait to be seen, acknowledged, and then invited into someone’s energy. If they try to provide their wise analysis without being asked, others tend to ignore them. And this dynamic of being chronically overlooked leaves Projectors with a very understandable propensity for bitterness.
Finding out you’re a Projector can be a huge relief. Most Projectors have known that their energy needs are different from others, but not understood why. If you are a Projector, you are the future; you are ushering the rest of us into a new paradigm of work and life. Start to examine the cultural conditioning that says you “should” have the same energy level as Generator Types. You are so valuable, and your wisdom is so needed. We need you to show up as you.
Projectors make up about 21% of the population. You may think it would be hard to find famous Projectors, but they are already making their presence known. Barack Obama, Cardi B, JFK, Princess Diana, Nelson Mandela, and Mick Jagger are all Projectors.
5. Reflectors: The Smoke
Reflectors are here to do just that — reflect. With absolutely no centers defined in their chart, they are the ultimate empaths.
This Type feels and absorbs the health and vitality of the people and environment around them. They are the smoke rising from the campfire, revealing the strength of the blaze.
Reflectors are the mirrors, and reveal to others their gifts and challenges just by existing. Because they absorb so much and have no natural life force energy, they need plenty of time to rest. Without the consistency of any defined centers, it is also helpful for this Type to attune to the lunar cycle and wait about 28 days to make any big decisions in their life. When they make decisions in alignment with their energy, they will feel pleasantly surprised, but if pressured or swayed to make decisions not in alignment, they can end up disappointed.
Because of their innate openness, their health is greatly affected by the people, environment, and energy around them. Thus, this Type needs to be incredibly picky about the settings and people they choose to spend time in and with.
Reflectors are the rarest Type and make up only about 1% of the population. Richard Burton, Sandra Bullock, H.G. Wells, and Dostoyevsky are all Reflectors.
Conclusion
It’s important to remember that no Energy Type is “better” or “worse” than another. Each has its challenges and gifts. And each Energy Type is needed to complete the “campfire”. What matters is that you are living as you. Tapping into your natural energy flow expands your personal power and opens you up to a whole new way of life.
There is so much more to learn about your Human Design. Your energy is a complex system, and your aura’s mechanics is only one part of that system. Dive deeper, discover more, and experiment with living your design.
About the Author:
Lisa (she/her) is an intuitive embodiment coach and Human Design guide. She is passionate about helping you reclaim your unique design so that you can live in a way that aligns with your energetic makeup and awaken to the power of being you. Learn more about her work and current offerings at lisaagreene.com.
I was talking with a new copywriting client whose principal markets — entertainment and politics — aren’t often predisposed to metaphysics. Since I’ve long advocated “speaking in the language your audience can hear,” we discussed how to slip transformative messaging under the radar, through intent and light (which is in-form-ation, bringing the unknown into form).
This is especially vital now, as momentous cycles conclude and we face the end of life as we know it — not as cataclysm, but as an ascent into greater self-actualization.
The Alien Perspective
A French film from 1996, The Green Beautiful, is amusingly on point in its perspicacity, depicting how humanity appears to a highly evolved extraterrestrial visitor. The storyline:
No one from Mila’s harmonious planet wants to volunteer for the Earth assignment; we’re considered an incorrigible orb. But it’s been 200 years since they’ve sent an emissary, so Mila steps forward.
To prepare, her brain is encoded with telepathic programs that, when activated, will restructure human thinking. This is where the fun begins.
As the film gently chides us by illuminating standard behavior (“Yes, they’re still using the money!”) the wake-up calls become entertainingly engaging: this IS how we are — and how bizarre we might appear through an “alien” lens.
Yet, who is the real “alien” here? I’ve often felt like Mila since my awakening: reactive to the poisons we consume and expel, unsettling people by verbalizing what they barely think about. In The Green Beautiful, as each person is “disconnected” from their mental programming, they begin hugging trees, hugging each other, speaking their truth, and unwittingly creating pandemonium through paradigm-evanescing conduct.
A Confluence of Clues
When we’re paying attention, the synchronicities in our own everyday lives are strong, and point the way to greater awareness. Consider:
As children, my brother and I loved chasing milkweeds carried on the breeze. “Look, a friend!” we’d exclaim. Years later, through a reference in a novel, I experienced a profound ah-ha. The botanical term for milkweed is Asclepias. This chimed in me. I wondered, could my childhood ally be related to Asclepius, the mythological Greek god of medicine who was trained by Chiron (the archetypal “wounded healer”) — which was conjunct my Sun at birth? Yes. What we know, before we know that we know.
Further intrigue: Asclepius was born mortal but given immortality as the constellation Ophiuchus (“serpent bearer”) after his death. Yet Ophiuchus is not recognized as the 13th sign of the zodiac, even though both the celestial equator and the ecliptic pass through it. The number thirteen, like snakes, is a sacred symbol of transformation that has been debased in order to control the collective through fear.
By unmasking deception, we discover a deeper connection.
Melting the Mind
One more example:
In Mindwalk, a visionary 1991 film that I watched prior to my descent, a scientist, politician and poet discuss how Nature is perceived as mechanistic, modeled on the clock — and then I left on the Journey and reconnected with natural time cycles via Mayan cosmology, living in accord with Nature in the middle of a forest — much like the people in The Green Beautiful, who also enjoy “silence concerts”.
Did you know “listen” and “silent” are anagrams? Living the both/and rather than the either/or expands our perception of possibility.
Mindwalk’s passionate discourse invokes our global focus now: whole-systems thinking. Liv Ullman, as the film’s physicist, declares, “The essential nature of matter lies not in objects, but in interconnections. We are pure potentiality, probability patterns; relationships make matter.” Poet John Heard agrees, “Healing the universe is an inside job.”
Whether through stealth spirituality or out in Rumi’s joy-filled field, this is our moment. As the entire planet incubates in the Asclepeion (ancient healing temple), it’s time for an abundance of subtle shifts: from passivity to passion, from collusion to collaboration, from independence to interdependence.
For our relationships. For our countries. For our connection with All-That-Is. The new reality, morphing into being with every breath.
About the Author:
Amara Rose is Managing Editor of Ascension Lifestyle. Her work is widely published in health, business, lifestyle, and new thought magazines, both digital and print. Visit LiveYourLight.com, where you can also subscribe to her monthly e-newsletter, What Shines.
When one of my co-workers found out about a tiny, orphaned kitten that needed a home a few months ago, he didn’t hesitate to adopt it. He says his new companion helped make the months of COVID-19 isolation at home much less stressful.
He is not alone. Animal shelters and breeders across the country have reported record numbers of dog and cat adoptions in recent months.
But after my co-worker returned to work, he says his adorable kitten started urinating on the kitchen counter while he was away.
Another friend is worried about how her dog will react when she returns to the office. Her big, goofy Labrador retriever follows her everywhere, even to the bathroom. When she leaves to run a quick errand, the dog sits by the back door and whines, awaiting her return.
What should these pet owners do?
The problem with sudden changes in routine
A change in routine, such as suddenly being alone for many hours every day, is a major cause of separation anxiety for both dogs and cats.
Separation anxiety is more than a little whimpering when you head out the door. It’s major, unwanted behavior that happens every time you leave or are away.
For dogs and cats, this can mean excessive pacing, barking or howling, whimpering or self-grooming as you get ready to leave. In some cases it can mean urinating or defecating around the house, often in places where scents linger, such as on bedding or rugs, or destroying household items in your absence. Extreme clinginess or neediness is another symptom.
Separation anxiety won’t go away on its own, and it can be difficult to get rid of entirely. But there are ways to manage it. As a clinical veterinarian and professor, I am often asked to help people find ways to ease their pets’ anxiety.
What not to do
First, it’s important to understand that it’s not about you – it’s about your pet. Your dog or cat is not trying to teach you a lesson or get revenge. Animals don’t act out of spite.
Instead, it’s a signal of extreme distress and frustration that should be approached like any other medical ailment. Your pet doesn’t want to experience separation anxiety any more than you want to experience its consequences.
For this reason, punishment is never the answer. For one thing, your pet won’t connect the punishment with something that happened hours – or even a few minutes – earlier. And punishment may only exacerbate your pet’s anxiety and stress.
Similarly, going to the opposite extreme by praising or giving affection when your pet is suffering anxiety also will make the problem worse.
The goal is to create a balanced relationship so your pet tolerates being alone. First, get your pet checked out by a veterinarian to rule out physical conditions, such as a urinary tract infection if your pet urinates in inappropriate places.
Next, make sure your pet gets plenty of exercise and mental stimulation. For dogs, this may mean a long run or brisk walk every day. Getting exercise shortly before you leave the house may put your dog in a more relaxed state while you’re gone. It’s harder to feel stressed when the endorphin levels are elevated. For cats, this could mean a change of environment by being outdoors in a safe, enclosed area such as a “catio.”
Treating separation anxiety with behavior change
Here, we’re talking about your behavior. The goal is to make your absence seem like no big deal. Making a fuss over your pet when you leave or arrive home only makes matters worse. If you treat it like it’s routine, your pet will learn to do the same.
Try to figure out when your pet starts to show signs of anxiety and turn that into a low-key activity. If it’s when you pick up your handbag, for example, practice picking it up and putting it back down several times over a few hours. Similarly, get dressed or put on your shoes earlier than usual but stay home instead of leaving right away. Try starting your car’s engine and then turning it off and walking back inside.
Next, practice short absences. When you’re at home, make it a point to spend some time in another room. In addition, leave the house long enough to run an errand or two, then gradually increase the time that you’re away so that being gone for a full day becomes part of the family routine.
Changing the environment
Boredom makes separation anxiety worse. Providing an activity for your pet while you’re gone, such as a puzzle toy stuffed with treats, or simply hiding treats around the house will make your absence less stressful. Other options for dogs and cats include collars and plug-in devices that release calming pheromones.
To maintain your bond while you’re gone, place a piece of clothing that you have worn recently in a prominent place, such as on your bed or couch, to comfort your pet. Similarly, you can leave the TV or radio on — there are even special programs just for pets — or set up a camera so you can observe and interact with your pet remotely. Some of these come equipped with a laser pointer or treats you can dispense.
Using supplements or medication
In some severe cases, when the animal harms itself or causes property damage, medication or supplements might be necessary. These alter the brain’s neurotransmitters to create a sense of calm.
While some are readily available without a prescription, it’s a good idea to get advice from your veterinarian to determine which are safest and most effective for your pet’s situation. Medication can help reduce the anxiety, making it easier for the pet to learn new coping skills. A behavior modification plan accompanying the use of medication can help manage this problem.
Separation anxiety is difficult for both you and your pet. But a few simple changes can make a huge difference as life returns to some semblance of normal.
About the Author:
Lori M. Teller is a Clinical Associate Professor, Veterinary Telehealth, at Texas A&M University
Happiness is the ultimate goal. All of us want to be happy; it’s our first search in this life. However, do we really know what being happy is?
Many of us think happiness is being content and satisfied with events present in our lives, like getting a new car, obtaining a new job or a promotion, falling in love, or traveling to a new place. But, the effects of these experiences pass and we keep looking for that elusive state.
Over the years and practicing my spiritual instruction, I have discovered that happiness is not a passing state or an illusion; it’s really a permanent state of fulfillment. Happiness for me is waking up every morning rested, it’s hearing the birds singing, it’s admiring the green beauty of my little garden, it’s enjoying a nice cup of coffee, it’s the simple things in life.
What I am trying to say is that my state of being is constantly a happy one and the best part of this is that everywhere I go I radiate my state of fulfillment to others around. I go to buy groceries, for example, and I get an extra apple for free, because I have been smiling and happily chatting to the cashier. Or somebody offers me their full bottle of mineral water in a restaurant before leaving. Or people just smile at me and talk to me.
It wasn’t like this before. I used to be a bit moody and bad tempered. However, by practicing meditation and spiritual exercises, little by little, my mood changed and my way of “being” changed, so much so that it caught my family’’ attention and they encouraged me to keep going, to keep practicing. I myself was amazed at my new way of enjoying my very own existence in this physical plane.
What about bad days, you may be wondering? Well, of course they appear from time to time, however they don’t last for long and if they do, I go deep into myself and quickly find my peace again.
Spirituality has given me the tools to achieve calmness, balance and inspiration to live my life like the happy energy being that I am. Happiness is a choice, and you can be happy, too.
Many times before I have said that our major proof is our own experience. Happiness is in my experience, not as a passing asset, but as a permanent one.
Go and make the necessary changes to allow happiness into your life.
About the Author:
Veronica Sanchez De Darivas is Chilean-Australian, now living in the UK and a proud mother of teenage twins. A spiritual awakening teacher, bestselling author, pineal gland (third eye) activator and Certified Instructor for the Cyclopea Method, Veronica is currently the only instructor in the world teaching the Cyclopea Method in English.
During this lockdown time when going out for a walk, I have observed that we participate in some sort of “avoiding dance”. Waiting for people to pass, crossing the street, walking on the street, lining up on the sidewalk, is a way of walking that we never experience before. However, this dance has an energetic feeling, it feels a little bit out of place, but at the same time it feels good to know that people actually care about others, although there is a bit of sadness and fear in the air. I try to smile at people from the distance and say thank you when someone stops to allow us to pass. Smiling and gratitude are high vibration feelings that take us far.
My husband and I witnessed a very touching scene the other day. We were walking on a beautiful street when, on the stairs of a building, facing the window of a first floor apartment we saw a family: mother, father and two small kids and on the other side of the window, there was an elderly man, grandpa. The family was visiting their father and grandpa. Of course, the family cannot enter, they cannot approach to him, so the little kids were drawing and saying hello to him, showing him their drawings and talking through the window. It was a heartfelt moment for us, happy and sad at the same time. When we were passing the window, the elderly man smiled at us and we smiled back and waved at him, then we kept walking in silence, wondering how the world has changed.
I truly believe that the “avoiding dance” is actually a great lesson for all of us, a lesson of kindness, of respect for one another, of leaving behind old patterns, of caring more for what really matters.
Life is certainly showing us that we are united in the invisible realms of love and consciousness. Although there was a window separating this family from grandpa, they were together anyway, and it was a beautiful moment to witness.
We come together in very hard times; however, the love energy is always there, reuniting us.
I know that after this crisis passes we will come out victorious. It is going to be a big victory for humanity, because I think that a new human being is born.
About the Author
Veronica Sanchez De Darivas is Chilean-Australian, now living in the UK and a proud mother of teenage twins. A spiritual awakening teacher, bestselling author, pineal gland (third eye) activator and Certified Instructor for the Cyclopea Method, Veronica is currently the only instructor in the world teaching the Cyclopea Method in English.
One spring I volunteered at a botanical garden, spending many days uprooting what to my untrained eye looked like lovely flowers and plants, because they were “non-native.” This particular garden cultivates only indigenous plants, so any errant seeds that have the misfortune to blow in and bloom are routinely removed
I found myself apologizing to the blossoms I pulled, innocent flowers who happened to settle in the “wrong” location. And I began to contemplate how much of our sense of borders and boundaries trickles down to everything we express as a species. While I’m not a horticulturist, my sense of deep ecology evolved out of my own healing journey.
Living Beyond the Lawn
Growing up in suburban America, I observed fairly rampant homeowner disgust with the dandelion, scourge of suburbia’s well-manicured lawns.
Much later, I discovered that dandelion is one of the most healing herbs available to humanity, offering itself in abundance wherever we may dwell. It’s a supreme liver tonic, known to help detoxify the body’s “processing plant.” In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), the liver equates to anger. If you want to release that pent-up rage in a healthy way, the remedy is probably available, free and easy, right in your own backyard.
Dandelion can act as de facto compost, gently surrounding and helping to decompose back into rich loam that which no longer serves. Yet we curse the weed and uproot it, spray poison to keep the green carpet unsullied. When we can stop “livin’ for the lawn,” focusing predominantly on the external, and make the subtle shift from ego mind to Universal Mind, we see with great clarity the incredible gifts all around us. Our teammates are everywhere, in the animal, plant and mineral kingdoms — if we have eyes to see.
Reimagining Inclusivity
As we move ever deeper into our collective rebirth process, we’ll be releasing people and places that no longer resonate with our lives now, and preparing to welcome in the new. Doing this with lovingkindness is our mandate. It’s a ripe moment to ask, who or what in my life seems like an outsider? Am I willing to look again, to enlarge the lens, to see beyond imaginary borders, to become inclusive rather than exclusive?
The Dandelion Principle says that where some see a weed, others see an herbal ally; a tonic not a toxic.
Where in your life is the medicine you need staring you in the face, masked as an undesirable…and all you need to do is shift your perception?
Below are seven practical steps to enlarge the lens this spring (fall, for our southern hemisphere allies): to slow down and look with the eyes of wonder, like a child. You’ll find many more on my mp3/CD, What You Need to Know Now: A Road Map for Personal Transformation:
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About the Author:
Amara Rose, Managing Editor of Ascension Lifestyle, is widely published in health, business, lifestyle, and new thought magazines, both digital and print. Visit LiveYourLight.com, where you can also subscribe to her monthly e-newsletter, What Shines.
Many countries in the world have been going through lockdown and quarantine. In some places this has been the norm for almost a year now. During this period, I have been reflecting on the good and bad things about it.
Here are 9 takeaways:
What have you learned so far?
About the Author:
Veronica Sanchez De Darivas is Chilean-Australian, now living in the UK and a proud mother of teenage twins. A spiritual awakening teacher, bestselling author, pineal gland (third eye) activator and Certified Instructor for the Cyclopea Method, Veronica is currently the only instructor in the world teaching the Cyclopea Method in English.