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This is a powerful time for shedding light onto some aspects of our own personality that we may have lost contact with. The soul is always longing to be healed, integrated and brought into more awareness. I thought it would be appropriate to focus on how to work directly with our painful life challenges. I would like to offer some insight into my beliefs about why we experience pain and challenges to begin with from a spiritual perspective. As someone who believes we create our own reality, I believe everything that we experience is always in a state of divine perfection. That being the case, everything the Universe offers to us is neutral in its meaning. It is our judgement of the experience and thus, our resistance to the flow of what is, that causes suffering.
One of the questions that I get asked most often in relationship to the belief that we create our own reality is, “how do you make sense of the fact that there are children suffering all over the world, are you saying they deserve that reality and they themselves created it?”
Let’s first do away with the idea that life is about deserving, this a construct of the ego. The Universe however is finely ordered, on some level whether conscious or unconscious, we all co-create of our experience here. Consider the possibility that there are no accidents that everything is always going exactly as planned. That we are always on path. We are each a unique expression of the Universe/the Creator/Source energy/God that is expanding and coming to know more of itself through all that we are. My belief is yes, not only has a soul created the life they are experiencing, but that with the help of several spirit guides, each soul has created a well thought plan for exactly what they want to experience while in the physical body.
We spend many lifetimes often choosing to incarnate into a physical experience in order to have the opportunity to bring more consciousness to all. Unhealed emotions are deeply embedded in the individual and collective unconscious. To heal something we need to experience it. This includes false beliefs. Things that we judge from the personality egoic mind as imperfection, from the perspective of the soul we can never be less than perfect. We live in a reality of illusion, a constant dream state, behind a veil. This is part of the soul contract that we have agreed to when we decided to take part in this Earth School experiment.
We created the illusion that we are separate (ego). We place some of our consciousness into a physical body and focus solely on the physical reality. We agreed that we would experience a collective amnesia, we would forget who we are and through our life experiences we would have the opportunity to once again discover the truth of our divine nature. The reason we chose to spend time in this physical incarnation is that contrast of this sort does not exist in the spirit and other non-physical realms. We plan experiences in order to know ourselves as love, compassion, and deeply connected to Source. Through these opportunities of contrast we are awakened to the deeper truth of who we are.
By immersing ourselves in experiences lacking in compassion, we create an impetus to develop internal compassion. This is a life of learning through opposites, a path of profound spiritual growth. The soul plans may include handicaps, illnesses, limitations, physical accidents, drug addiction, homelessness, or many other types as challenges. All That Is benefits from the expansion that we create. So not only do we karmic ally benefit our own soul’s lessons, but we offer insight and inspiration to the entire Universe through this great work.
As souls we do not judge. From a spirit perspective, all judgement is self judgement. This may be due in part to the fact that on a subtle level we are aware that we chose the experiences we have lived. Judgements however, while in the physical body are not the result of separation but rather the cause of it. Through projections we continually blame the other, and attempt to separate ourselves from the discomfort that is created. This again is simply a tactic of the ego to prevent us from seeing ourselves.
To release judgement and offer compassion is to return to who we are. When we come into the awareness that none of what we have experienced is by accident, that we are living out our own souls plan exactly as it was written, this opens up the opportunity for profound healing. The way to do this is through recognizing the lesson that we set out to learn. This will be the source of our highest wellbeing.
In learning the lesson we gain an immense amount of self-esteem and self-love while still in the physical realm. Rather than waiting to enjoy the rewards of our hard work in the spirit realm we can welcome all of the blessings now.
From my own research and experience with past and parallel life regression, I have learned that we truly love the souls that we plan our lives with. We hold on so dearly to this misconception that a soul mate it this ideal romantic partner who comes into our lives to complete us. This could not be further from the truth. No other being can love you enough to make up for a lack of not loving your own self. In addition, all of the people who play key roles in our lives are soul mates. During our earthly experience they may be the ones who complicate our life, or even play the role of an “enemy” or abusive parent. Soul mates often incarnate together to master lessons. To speak even further about soul mates, many of our spirit guides are disincarnate souls who are also in fact soul mates.
Once you recognize that an individual is not a true enemy but rather a member of your soul family simply carrying out the request you made from them to live our your plan you realize there is no need to hold onto any bitterness or resentment.
The depression, the anger, the “why me” feelings are important stages of acceptance as part of our soul lesson. They are necessary in order to reach a higher state of consciousness. It is very important to forgive yourself at each stage of the process and to even share your story with others who may be going through the similar experiences and may be able to benefit from your insight. Forgiveness of the person you shared the lesson with is key because it allows us to release and balance the karma for which we may have come together with another being.
We may assume a relationship ending is some sort of failure. Often it is pre-written that we meet for certain period of time in our life related to the intended lesson. Once we have honored our contract all parties can move forward. Forgiveness allows us to fully close the chapter and enjoy the benefits of vibrating higher in our present lives. The souls that stay focused on the traumatic experience lose of a sense of clarity. They may decide to carry self-blame, punishing themselves, and prolonging the lesson. Self-forgiveness is a step towards Enlightenment because it is derived from self-love.
Along with forgiveness, gratitude is a sacred vibration. It immediately aligns us with a flow of All That Is. We express gratitude not to say that we are happy for our suffering, but rather for the growth we have experienced through it. Stay in gratitude that you have been given opportunities to awaken to higher levels of consciousness. Many do not have this consciousness available to them. Staying a state of gratitude helps the shift the focus to healing. The ongoing practice of gratitude has proven effects on the wellbeing of the body including being linked with lower rates of heart diseases.
Free will is always available to us at any moment in which we chose to no longer wish move through the experiences (that we set up to learn) in the exact same manner as was written. We can do this by increasing our vibrational frequency. By practicing compassion, gratitude, forgiveness and taking more loving actions towards others. In my belief everything has a higher meaning. I have learned to trust and surrender my limited understanding of the true meaning behind all of my experiences. I simply practice going with the flow. Knowing that in time, all truth will be revealed.
Our challenge is to find the beauty in the midst of all of our challenges. The true mark of an enlightened being is their ability to turn a negative experience into a positive one. Each of us has a divine purpose. Often the specific challenges that you planned will have a direct correlation with what we want to share with the rest of the world. I pray this work brings you closer to all that you desire to know.
By: Ascension Lifestyle Contributor Hasnaa
(Art by Jeff Sullivan)