A ‘twin flame’ doesn’t always refer to a romantic relationship, but it’s a term that refers to people that share something bigger. If you’ve ever met someone whom you instantly connect to, as if you were always destined to meet, even if you’re unsure quite why, they may be your twin flame.
Twin flame relationships tend to be intense—it’s someone with whom you have a profound spiritual connection to, with traits often compared to soul mates. While both describe a life-changing relationship, the two concepts are described as being entirely different.
The term ‘twin flame’ was first coined in the ’70s by Elizabeth Clare Prophet, the leader and founder of an international New Age religious organisation called The Church Universal and Triumphant (CUT). She also published the book Soul Mates and Twin Flames: The Spiritual Dimension of Love and Relationships.
However, the concept can be traced to the fifth century BC. According to Greek mythology, humans originally had a head with two faces, two pairs of arms and two pairs of legs. However, Zeus feared their power and split them into two separate parts. The pair spends their lives in search of their other half: their twin flame.
So what, exactly, does the term twin flame mean? And, perhaps, more importantly, how do you know when you’ve found yours?
What is a twin flame?
The concept of a perfect, destined partner is certainly a nice one. But what does it actually mean?
According to astrologer Patty Kamson, it’s a lot like what it sounds like. “Imagine meeting someone who feels like they are your soul’s mirror,” she says. “Someone who reflects your deepest self, lights up your spirit and challenges you like no one else. That’s a twin flame.”
However, a twin flame is not exactly a soulmate. “Unlike soulmates, who come into your life to support and grow with you (and yes, you can have more than one soulmate), a twin flame is the person who shares your soul,” she says. “It’s like two halves of the same whole—two flames burning from the same spark. The connection is intense and can be as tumultuous as it is transformative.”
Kamson points to Megan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly as an example. The pair have spoken about their twin flame connection in the past. Kamson sums up, “It’s that electric feeling of being deeply understood, yet constantly pushed to grow. Meeting your twin flame isn’t about finding someone who completes you, but rather, someone who pushes you to evolve into your best self.”
Can you have more than one twin flame?
Although we can all have plenty of wonderful connections in our lives, you can only have one true twin flame, according to the theory. “It’s often believed that a twin flame is your soul’s other half, making the connection rare and uniquely special,” says Kamson.
Sometimes, we may never meet our twin flame but we can still find a soulmate. “A soulmate brings deep support, love and companionship, often arriving when you need them most,” she says. “Soulmates can come in the form of friends, partners or even family members, and they’re there to share in your journey, offering comfort and connection without necessarily challenging you to the core the way a twin flame does.”
How do you know when you have met your twin flame?
Recognising your twin flame isn’t as simple as swiping right on a dating app. “It’s not just about chemistry or attraction, it’s a soul-level connection that’s pretty unmistakable,” says Kamson.
These are the signs to look out for:
- Instant recognition: When you meet your twin flame, it feels like you’ve known them forever, even if you just met. The connection is instant, deep and sometimes overwhelming. It’s as if your soul recognises them before your mind even catches up. Ever lock eyes with someone and feel like, “Wait… do I know you?” That’s the Twin Flame vibe.
- Intense magnetic pull: You can’t stay away from each other, even if you try. It’s like a gravitational pull between your energies—whether you’re together or apart, you feel each other’s presence.
- Emotional rollercoaster: Buckle up, because twin flame relationships are not for the faint of heart. The highs are incredible, but the lows can be just as intense. Your twin flame will challenge you to face your deepest insecurities and fears, and that’s part of the growth. One moment, you feel like you’re on top of the world; the next, you’re questioning everything. It’s all part of the process of self-discovery and healing.
- The mirror effect: Your twin flame reflects both your light and your shadow. They show you parts of yourself that you didn’t even realise existed—both the beautiful and the messy. It’s like having a mirror held up to your soul. This can feel both exhilarating and confronting because it forces you to see and heal the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding. If you’ve ever had someone trigger you in a way no one else could, you might be dealing with twin flame energy.
- Push and pull dynamic: Twin flame relationships often have a runner and chaser dynamic. One person might feel overwhelmed and pull away, while the other feels an intense need to reconnect. This push and pull can be frustrating, but it’s a sign that both individuals are going through personal growth. It’s like a dance, with each person taking turns leading and following as they evolve.
What are the dangers of a twin flame relationship?
As powerful as this connection is, it can come with its own set of challenges. Sometimes, you might not actually be compatible with your twin flame. The pressure to make it work can be immense and you might end up fighting for a relationship that isn’t actually good for you in the long run.
How to deal with a breakup with your twin flame
Yes, sometimes, you and your twin flame may not stay together. The heartbreak of this breakup can feel almost impossible to deal with. “It can feel like part of your soul has been ripped open, and moving on feels impossible,” Kamson says. “But here’s the thing—twin flame breakups, while painful, are often part of the journey.”
Here’s how she recommends managing the transition.
- Honour the pain but see the growth: The pain is real, but it’s also an opportunity for massive growth. The separation allows both people to heal, learn and evolve individually. It’s important to honour the emotions that come with the breakup, but also recognise the lessons and personal transformation it’s pushing you toward. This isn’t just a breakup; it’s a soul-level transformation.
- Lean into self-care: After a twin flame breakup, your energy might feel drained and your emotions all over the place. This is the time to lean into self-care like never before. Surround yourself with people who love and support you, and focus on activities that ground you. Meditation, journaling and spending time in nature can help you reconnect with yourself.
- Accept that separation might be temporary: Twin flames often go through cycles of separation and reunion. Just because you’re apart now doesn’t mean it’s the end forever. Sometimes the separation is necessary for each person to grow and heal before coming back together. And sometimes, the separation is permanent, but that doesn’t mean the love or the connection wasn’t real. Trust the process and know that whatever happens is part of your soul’s journey.
- Focus on your own evolution: The best way to move forward from a twin flame breakup is to focus on your own growth. What did this relationship teach you about yourself? How can you use that wisdom to evolve into the next version of yourself? Remember, the whole point of a twin flame connection is personal growth and awakening. It’s not just about the relationship—it’s about you.
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