In the video above Jenna explained what energy vampires are and how the process of energy exchange works. We are going to dive even deeper into to this, building upon the basics of what she discussed in the video. For a moment, lets suspend the idea that the phrase invokes because energy vampires aren’t people who literally suck energy out of you by biting your neck. They are simply people who drain you of your energy through the way they interact with you. As Jenna mentioned, everything we do uses up energy, this includes every interaction we have with people. Some people leave us more depleted of our energy than others. Sometimes people don’t realize they are draining your energy when they intentionally try to bring you down in one way or another, while others are completely aware of the methods in which they do. What is certain is that the negative interactions you have with people whom you allow to push your buttons and shake you up, are the same interactions that will deplete the energy you would have been able to devote to something that is more worthwhile and uplifting for yourself.
There are levels to the way this works but people who are energy vampires for the most part are people who have issues within themselves that leave you feeling very drained. Often people with insecurities unconsciously project their fears on to you, which causes you to engage with them on a level that stems from their core insecurities. Some people do this because they are emotionally insecure and they try to make you feel as shitty as they feel because they want your pity and acknowledgement of your “alleged transgressions” against them, or they want your acknowledgement and pity of how bad the world has been to them. It’s one thing to empathize but some people want you to feel as down as they are so they are no longer insecure about not being not being on your level of happiness and wholeness.
Others are more calculated as they try to chip away at you with intentions of breaking your spirit, your confidence, your core sense of security. These people are seemingly confident and in control of themselves but deep within them there is a desire to manipulate and get the upper hand in situations where they are insecure about how much control they have over the person they are interacting with. You can think of these types of people as emotional chess players. This competitive drive leads them to always want to get the upper hand and to always want to make you feeler smaller than they are.
This level of energy vampires will try to make you to think thoughts that cause you to restrict your own source flow, making you forget that you’re whole. Psychic vampires don’t trust themselves to fulfill their own inner needs and believe the only way to get what they need to feel whole is to take it from others. Their core beliefs about themselves diminish their vitality, causing them to live in a perpetual state of desperate need; such as the desperate need to be in control and get the upper hand. Or the desperate need to bring you down to their emotional state so they won’t be left behind. Thus they behave in a way that causes you to think thoughts that deprive you of your own source energy. They are victims of their own minds, their own trauma.
As long as they are successfully getting this energy from people around them, they don’t have much incentive to heal themselves on their own. They enjoy the attention they get when they disrupt the equilibrium within you. They will observe and strike you in your moment of weakness and mental vulnerability, so they can feel more secure. Preoccupied with making you feel smaller then them, the have perfected the art of passive aggression.
Psychic vampires live in a perpetual need to manipulate because they are desperate victims of their own complex insecurities. Humiliation and or guilt is one of their favorite modalities of attack as it makes them feel righteous and superior to you.
You cannot have dominion over how people interact with you but you can have dominion over yourself. When you invest energy into these types of people, you are letting go of the power that keeps you whole. If an attack is to invade you, there has to be a weakness within you in order for that attack to penetrate. So ask yourself, why is this making me feel this way? Maybe you feel embarrassed, profoundly misunderstood, or victimized, whatever the feeling, the time you invest into those thoughts is giving them energy to feel more Prideful about what they are doing to you.
Your ability to let go is essential to your state of mind during these interactions. When you have no ego, no false sense of pride, those who try to attack it are wasting their energy, fighting something that doesn’t even exist. When you sort out what’s going on in your internal reality, your external reality will reflect that and you will become less affected by those who try to attack.
Let go of how reality should be and flow with what is revealed to you. The moment we stop experiencing things as good or bad, life becomes easier, “bad” things become lessons, “good” things become gratitude. This will change the way we experience things especially the way we take in information from other people. Human interaction is an energetic dance, and in communication, we focus on the things that reinforce & retrigger the emotional states we are in, this is often beyond our awareness. Emotions are like little life forms in your body that want to live as long as possible and run the show. They tweak and modify your perceptual filters, so when you are in a negative emotional state, what comes to your attention first during communication is presented to you by your emotional state. It is a clash between the emotions of the reptile brain and the incessant thinking of the neocortex; emotions and intellect at war with each other. I could dive deeper into the science, philosophy, and mysticism behind this but to put it simply…Remove the barriers between one part of the mind and the other to create unity. Unity is wholeness.
When you let go of attachment to how an energy vampire is trying to make you feel, you will passively observe them as they try to grind your gears or bring you down in some way. At this point it will be almost comical for you to witness this childish behavior they are projecting on you.
When we feel someone is manipulating us it is because we are externalizing our power. Your perception is your reality so it’s also about what you see, and what you see is what you get. Are you looking for the bad in people? If you are then that is what you will see and come into resonance with. But if you are looking for the good endearing qualities than that is what you will see and connect with. The minute you develop the need to feel protected from something, you create the fear you need protection from. We believe we are victims the moment we feel the need to be protected, the moment we forget our connection to source, the moment we forget that we are whole.
Take responsibility for how you feel because you are the architect and co-creator of your own reality. Where the mind goes, energy flows, so if you are tuned into the negativity of other people then you will turn into what you are tuned into. Don’t get wrapped up in the what and the why of what’s happening with you, just be authentic as a filter to those who can’t handle the real you. Attract those who resonate with you, as long as your intentions are pure, you’re karma will reveal what you need to feel. Authenticity is important when dealing with psychic vampires because they feed off of our insecurity of self. The more you do what it takes to love yourself, the less you will need other people to feel whole.
Analyze your victim mentality, the beliefs that are denying you access to your own personal power. Being in the presence of someone who loves to act in a way that makes them feel better about themselves meanwhile trying to make you feel worse about yourself is as repulsive as two magnets with the same charge. Take time to decide who’s who in your life and what kind of people you want to continue to interact with. Nobodies perfect, we all have shadow qualities within ourselves that bring other people down in some way, shape, or form, even if we are unaware of it. But who in your life is really there to bring out the best in you? who really wants your happiness to flourish? Who really understands and accepts you without judgment or competition? Develop a keen awareness, an x-ray vision into the soul, you will eventually see through those who’s insecurities are their own dead weight and the truth of who’s who in your life will reveal itself to you.
There are levels to this though, we’ve only scratched the surface…
“Let no one rob me of a single day who is not going to make me an adequate return for such a loss.” Seneca
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